Forget Buddha. Let’s talk materialism.
The best food in the world will never come from a restaurant. You don’t even need top-notch ingredients. What you need is a little know-how (not a ton–you want to be a cook, not a three-star chef) and…time.
So if you’re not trading all your hours to make ends meet, and you can do some chopping and then periodically check in on your creation over 4-6 hours, guess what? Your apartment might very well be the best place to eat in the entire city. And if you had pleasurably dropped, oh, maybe a total of $2000–lifetime–on thrift store stereo equipment, vinyl and CDs, plus library annex novels (shocking how good the titles are for $1 to $2) and artbooks ($5 to $10 each), plus a handful of posters with inexpensive frames or mounting…your apartment now looks good, sounds good, smells good, the food you serve in it tastes good, and the place is filled with all kinds of interesting things for guests to pick up and ponder.
Four senses down. And I like your chances for touching, because…
…the sound and smells from your apartment will be noticed. So if you–gasp–knock on a few doors down the hallway, and invite people over for a meal…at a minimum, you’ll have a friendly hallway. At a maximum, you might have a few genuine friends steps from your door, ones who know other people you might like as well. And then–suddenly–there’s an element in your social life that millionaires and billionaires can’t have, because they’re usually booked with all those responsibilities, plus they’ve dropped fortunes for land, security and privacy: effortless, spontaneous evenings.
Oh, and those fabulous restaurants those billionaires and millionaires are going to? They’re spending thousands so…they can’t pick the music, they don’t get seconds, they’re at the mercy of reservations, and they have to leave. Not to mention the fact that a first-rate commercial kitchen is a master class in logistics, and guess what they’re likely not doing? Slow-cooking anyone’s meal for 4-6 hours.
Whereas you dropped $40, most of your cooking time was actually spent watching the football game and listening to music, you ate better and so did your guests, they brought the alcohol, everybody gets seconds, and things end when they end.
You unambitious loser you. How awful. I’m embarrassed for you. You need a vision, a five-year plan, and…oh, um…yes. I am hungry…
By the way, if you live in a city of any size, dollars to donuts, the main/central library not only has a mindwobblingly great collection of art books, poetry chapbooks and jazz, blues and classical CDs and vinyl, it also likely has a librarian sitting quite near them who loves these items.
Talk to him/her. If you do, 1) you’ll be renting someone else’s excellent taste for free while you develop your own, and 2) you can have enticing, memorable material all over your apartment for free, and keep changing it up every three weeks.
Which means you just might become an intriguing, tactile person in a streaming world where everyone says amazing (about things that aren’t) 54 times a day. So get that freaking library card!
Coca-Cola on a hot summer day is about as American as fighting bears in the woods and blowing things up—and more refreshing, too. But you already knew that.
What you didn’t know is that your favorite carbonated candy can be used for a lot more than just drinking. Here are 12 things you didn’t know you could do with Coca-Cola.
1. Remove blood stains
Got some blood on your favorite tee? (Bears do fight back, from time to time) Sprinkle a can of Coke in with your regular laundry detergent and water, and wait for magic to happen.
2. Take rust off
Need to clean up the bumper on that old Ford of yours? Looking to put some elbow grease into the wheels on your new-to-you bicycle? Pour some Coke on it.
The trace amounts of phosphoric acid are enough to corrode rust and keep your bike spokes and bumper looking like new. Pro-tip: Use tin foil to rub the Coke into the rust and watch it disappear, because science is goddamn voodoo wizardry.
3. Degrease cookware
When hot soapy water just won’t cut it, soak those stubborn grease spots and charred leftover mishaps in some Coke and let it sit for a half hour or so. Or stick to takeout. Whatever.
4. Fix your car battery
When a car won’t start without any low-battery warnings or cold weather, there’s a good chance you have a dirty battery terminal. The acidity of Coca-Cola is just enough to clean the oxidized terminals and give your ride the juice it needs to get you where you’re going. It won’t bring a battery back from the dead, but it may save you an expensive trip to the parts store.
5. Make an actual battery
It’s not much power, but you can really turn an LED on with a coke can. Check out this video.
6. Loosen stuck bolts
Anyone who’s ever done some home improvement or basic auto maintenance knows that stuck bolts can be every wrench-turner’s worst enemy. If you’re fresh out of PB B’laster or Liquid Wrench, try some Coke. Just like on those old bike spokes, the phosphoric acid will react with the rust and free those pesky bolts.
7. Get gum out of your hair
When mayonnaise, peanut butter, and whatever other gross things the Internet says will get gum out of your hair fail, try drizzling some Coca-Cola into your hair. The ingredients in the Coke will break down the gum and hopefully save you an emergency barbershop stop. It also works great for gum stuck on shoes!
8. Neutralize bug bites and stings
Bees are majestic creatures that pollinate our trees and flowers, put food on our plates, and keep our Cheerios honey nut-ed. They also sting. It sucks. Next time you find yourself on the wrong side of a bee’s stinger (or jellyfish’s tentacle!) pour some Coke on the bite/sting to neutralize the pain.
9. Clean your windows and mirrors
Those delicious acids found in this bubbly wonder work incredibly well on grimed up windows and mirrors. Just rinse it off with water so no sticky residue gets left behind.
10. Clean your toilet
Man, this stuff is great. If you run out of toilet cleaner, a can of Coke will work wonders on your throne. Literally just dump a can where you dump in your can (see what we did there?), let it sit for about an hour, give it a good scrub, and voila—presto clean-o.
11. Polish old jewelry
If you want to breathe new life into your old jewelry or de-gunk the treasure in your coin purse, dip your precious metals in a glass of Coke and let them sit overnight. Give them a light scrub the next morning with an old rag and they’ll look like new.
12. Clean grease stains off your driveway
If that old clunker of yours is doing a number on your once-pristine driveway, Coke is a great alternative to a complete re-pave. Drown the affected spot with the syrupy nectar of the Gods and let it sit for a full 24 hours. Take a hose to it (preferably a power washer), and watch the grime, gunk, and grease melt away.
Don’t think your sh-t doesn’t stink, it does and so does everyone else’s.
Don’t waste any time.
It goes by so quickly, but you won’t know that until you get old and you can’t do anything about it.
The saying, “Youth is wasted on the young” is true. You have no idea how much it matters until you don’t have it anymore.
You don’t matter.
Even if you’re the CEO of Everything, people won’t remember or care. There are a few people who will be remembered forever; don’t think you’re one of them.
Maybe you’re a Steve Jobs, a Michelangelo, an Elon Musk, or a Theda Bara. Don’t recognize the name? She was a famous silent film star. I know who she was, but her name will be lost and forgotten.
Remembered or not, dead is still dead.
You were here and hopefully you made the most of it. When you’re gone, your torch passes onto a new generation who could care less.
I found this out when I realized that I was talking to a person for whom John Fitzgerald Kennedy’s death existed only in a history book, while I’d watched it on live TV. If you don’t recognize the name, and believe me, there are people who don’t, look it up.
The world doesn’t and never will revolve around you.
Carpe Diem – Seize the day.
You won’t, but perhaps you can try. Why won’t you seize the day? You believe you are immortal. You aren’t.
“Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying;
And this same flower that smiles today
To-morrow will be dying.”
You believe that the things you do today don’t matter.
You think that there you have endless numbers of days and each presents with so many more things to do.
If you don’t you’ll miss so much and once it’s passed, something that you needed to hear, see, touch, feel or smell, won’t ever come back.
Don’t be the person everyone will remember as, “The One We Didn’t Want to be With.”
Don’t be an ass who always touts their own successes. Rather, try to be quiet sometimes and listen to what other people have to say.
They all know you’re special, but hearing it all the time becomes very tiresome.
If you’re lucky enough to be in a position where you can help someone else, do it.
Remember that we’re all human beings, living on the same blue globe, and at least for the foreseeable future, we aren’t going anywhere else.
Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness.
I know you don’t believe me, but it’s true. Trying to fill up the hole we all carry around with us, with stuff, doesn’t work. Keep trying to find happiness in things, but one day you’ll realize that it doesn’t work.
Money does help to keep the anxiety of “What am I going eat today”, “Where am I going to sleep tonight”, “How am I going to able to support my family”and “How will I be to be able to afford good medical care”, at bay. Those things are important and can be solved by money.
As a country, we don’t believe that if those questions keep you up at night, the rest of us ought to help you. I do, but I respect other people who don’t.
Beyond that, even owning the latest Lamborghini or Tesla or whatever floats your boat, doesn’t work. If you’re always looking for the next toy to buy, you’ll understand why the saying, “In the end, he who has the most toys wins” is a lie.
Don’t Rely on your Looks.
Here’s the truth; you can’t be nipped, sucked and tucked, lifted and separated, martinized or pasteurized, and think you’re going to look the same way you do today.
All the money in the world and all the operations you have, won’t bring back the glory of youth that you have today. I’m thinking about you Joan Rivers, and you Cher.
It’s not nice to speak ill of the dead so let me say this:
Cher, you look awful. You’re sixty-nine and you look exactly like a 69-year-old who’s trying to look young and failing. Get over yourself.
Find something to do that makes you happy.
Find someone to love who makes you feel special.
Find something to care about.
None of the above has anything to do with your retirement fund, how much money you make, what your stock portfolio looks like or even what you look like.
That’s the best news you’ve heard all day.
Don’t do dangerous drugs.
When Cory Monteith, who starred on Glee, died from an overdose at 31, I was upset that someone who’d had such a bright future, would throw it away for heroin.
These folks decided that heroin was more important than living.
Philip Seymour Hoffman
Don’t believe that drugs, sex, money or having more things is the answer.
If you do, you’re going to be very disappointed.
This is a real question by someone:
I sold my company five years ago and have built a net worth of ~$10 million, but compared to my friends I feel like a loser and still keep trying hard at startups that stress me out and make me miserable. What should I do?
And here is a really good answer:
Recap of your situation:
You know from experience that positive feelings do not necessarily follow success in business. At least not at $10M, your one data point. You’re limited on time, and the cost of another data point at $100M may be 10 or 20 years of time that could go into raising your kids, not to mention leisure and adventures of all sorts.
Hence you have an Either/Or decision, which depends crudely on this question: will 10x more money cure your affliction of feeling like a loser, or are you better off enjoying what there is to enjoy around you right now and find the true cause of feeling like a loser?
Many people would tell you that being grateful and giving will satisfy you more. There is some truth to this, but that isn’t guaranteed either. In my opinion, it will depend largely on your understanding of your own emotional life and options: how confident and comfortable you are at a deep level with how you decide to live this one life.
It’s useful to avoid morally loaded words like selfishness and generosity to begin reflecting on this topic. Believing you are worth any less for feeling greedy or other unsanctioned and unreasonable emotions, stops you from thinking about whether and how such feelings may actually cause harm.
There’s no substitute for learning what satisfies us through trial and error. Others can offer hypotheses; but devising the learning experiments is up to us. That’s because it is our innermost selves need to learn about our lives. Moralizing the issue hijacks this process with borrowed beliefs and outside authority.
BN: some positive feelings come with strings attached while others don’t. The fun you have with your kids, for example will likely only lead to other fulfilling experiences for you all.
But prestige comes with side effects:
– Fear of losing reputation, having to defend it;
– Spending years acquiring influence when you could be doing something more enjoyable or personally meaningful;
– Having to keep your own ego in check for fear of alienating those around you;
– Arrogance, a tendency to view others as inferior to yourself, leading to loneliness;
– Most people around you want to use you, leading to mistrust and more loneliness;
– The few who do love you for who you are, you don’t have time for; you’ve got fires to put out
– Difficult to acknowledge weaknesses, as they are incongruent with the projected image and therefore particularly disappointing (e.g. this thread).
– Etc. etc…
Why would anyone sign up for all that when there are so many other things to enjoy?
1: Put it into practice – do some worked examples. mindmap the application of it to something you’re currently doing, You can’t learn golf from a book, you need to swing a club at a ball. You can’t learn Ruby on Rails from a book – you need to put together a site.
2: Find someone who knows how, and has a reputation for being good at explaining things. Ask them to explain something. Buy them lunch if needed. If you don’t understand something, ask them to repeat it. If you don’t understand it then, ask them to explain it a different way. If they can’t, or they won’t, or you still don’t understand, find someone else to explain it.
3: Find someone else who is keen to learn about the same subject, and arrange to get together with them regularly (online or in meatspace), to run through how things are going.
4: Each month, go and buy a magazine in a category you’ve never bought before. I don’t care what – Interior Design, Fishing, Cooking, Sports Cars, anything really. Read it – you may pick up a ‘pattern’ that resonates with something else, elsewhere, and much of learning is about patterns. (Even if you don’t, you’ll learn something, so the day won’t be a waste.)
5: If you are in a meeting situation (class, business, club, whatever), don’t be afraid to put up your hand and say ‘Sorry, can you just explain why…’ a bit more. Stupid people will think you are stupid. Intelligent people will admire you. This helps discover who the people to start networking with are.
6: Accept that mastery takes time and practice…. and isn’t a constant upwards curve. Learn to love the plateaus.
7: If you are having trouble getting something, write it out, longhand (not on a computer) on a pad of paper, just before you are going to bed. (Ideally, wait until you are in bed, do it, then close your eyes and go to sleep). You don’t actually need the conscious mind to be involved to internalise a lot of things.
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Laugh. Be happy. Be optimistic. Get enough sleep. Stay out of debt.
Do not stay at a boring job that pays badly. Have a good relationship with your boss. Try and get promoted. Kissing ass is good for you. Job insecurity and unemployment are correlated with poor health.
Connecting with others can be more important than exercise. Spend time with friends.
Loneliness can kill you. Blaming others can make you ill. Forgive.
It’s essential to have a feeling of control over your life but you don’t want to be a perfectionist.
Kiss more. Having more orgasms might extend your life. (Guys, more orgasms will probably reduce your chance of prostate cancer.)